Oh CM, my heart is going out to you. Glad you called the police and reported his threats. If he brings home a gun, please do whatever is necessary to ensure your safety and the safety of family. Also, I hate to bring this up, but as a person who lost a dad and father-in-law to suicide, that is also a possibility, especially if a gun is in the home. Both my dad and father committed suicide due to pain and/or chronic illness. They were in their 60s and 70s repectively. I don't recall seeing ages on your posts but just want you to have a heads up on that possiblity.

If you ask him point blank to share his thoughts and feelings about his condition, what he wants, what he expects, do you think he will answer? While a conversation about death is uncomfortable, I think it's important for you to know exactly where he stands and also to make sure he can commit to not harming you, your child and himself.

Just want to stress again the importance of protecting yourself and your child.

D



Aunt diag. 2/4/10 with SCC Stage I/II on left side of tongue. Surgery 2/19/10 part. gloss./neck diss. on left side/free flap from chest muscle. TI/II,NO,MO. Clear margins with perineural invasion. Started rads 4/8/10 - 35 treatments, finished 5/26/10.