the node involvement means that it did spread. ALOT of the people in this forum have node involvement. i never asked how many nodes were involved with andy...the MO just told us "multiple"--one being 4cm and on both sides of the neck.

at least now yall know and can move forward with treatment.

i also came here to freak out. its the safest place. family and friends tend to freak out when u freak out and alot of freaks running around is the last thing dave needs. i also would go into another room, outside, etc and let it all go. i always tried not to loose it in front of andy.

later on u will probably have to fight him every step of the way. read up on the caregiver forum. some of us have some impractical ways of getting things done. but if it works...run with it.

take a deep breath and move forward. we are here whenever u need us.