Do you know I'm actually getting jealous of people's Drs here!!! If it wasn't for this site I would be walking around even more of a crazed zombie...
And I know my questions sound so obvious but none of this was explained. Can I assume if he told us Dave has a tumor on his tongue and BOT(I'm getting the acronyms down) that the tongue is the primary???

And also,I noticed quite a few people here had node involvement without it spreading. He told me that there was a good chance of it having spread to somewhere else like the lungs or in the chest once it gets in the lymph nodes.
I asked if there was something in the tests that made him think it might have spread more and he said "no, but it's more likely to have."
Is that a resonable speculation?

By the time, we get to a normal MD and I can get ask these questions I will probably hug and kiss him(hope I don't scare him off).