Tom:

Im glad your post started out with knowing everyone is different. Its good that you are reading the posts here and understand that. That is a key phrase in fighting cancer. Everyone does respond differently to treatments with different degrees of reactions to the treatments. One of the best posts you could read here is under Getting Thru It Project, its called Draft Copy.

Your wife has many doctors watching out for her. Has she seen a nutritionist? Does she have a peg tube? My radiation nurses would weigh me everyother day when I started to lose weight. The rad doctor would call my nutritionist to come see me when I was having trouble keeping weight on. The nurses even had me bring my cans of formula with me to radiation to help me with my feedings when I was struggling. My chemo doc was also on top of this too.

Your fear is a very rational one. Its so scary being diagnosed with cancer and going thru treatments. There were some terrible days where without the hospital staff I thought I wouldnt get thru it. That was me, I didnt have a spouse caring for me. Your wife is about my age, she has a loving husband to help her every step of the way. That will help her tremendously. Please keep asking questions here, you will have OCFs support to help guide you thru this. Best of luck.