Hi Carol, I have a daughter your daughters age.......shoot, I have a couple of them in that age range laugh In your last post you stated that it hurt your daughter that her father didn't want to see her. That really wasn't the case............he didn't want HER to see HIM. I think you're a "mother bear" like me, I'm almost over the top protective of my kids. When I read the way you wrote it, and the way it appeared that you are interpreting it.........hell, I'd be pissed to. But try thinking of it the other way around......he probably wanted nothing more then to see his child, but it was her feelings he was trying to spare. Just thought this snippet might make you move past it easier, it's tough to dump emotions we have built up in us.

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.