Dear Carol, I would take "a small issue" with something you said above-ie: this is not about you. It is, in fact, about you too. Caregivers who are family members are joined at the hip of loved ones going through this battle. P;ease don't downplay or worse yet, bury your emotions during this time. You will need to stay as physically and emotionally strong as possible and that can be hard to do. Wishing you much strenght. Amy in the Ozarks