Thank you for your replies..To Uptown..our daughter is what she refers to as a daddy's girl,in her twenties not married, not because she is weak, but because she adores her father and is just like him. We were so concerned about her, that we tried to not tell her about the cancer until we had all the answers as suggested by a social worker and of course our decision and we did not want her just to know how sick her father was. He actually almost died on us, but she is unaware of that at this time, (he is still in treatment). Her father did not want her to see him in that state. She was so upset when she found out, I had to tell her because she continued to call and ask about him. When she found out that he did not want to see her she was so upset. You can imagine how you would feel if your wife or someone close to you said you had to stay away. They do alot together as a family. We all work shift work so it is hard to do things together, but they had special things they do like going to pancakes breakfasts etc. It was not until our oldest daugher spoke to her and convinced her that these were her fathers wishes. Not only was I very upset but my daughter and I were now under doctors care. He realized that when he came home he must see her and when he arrived she was going to leave and I called her back to speak to him because he was ready to see her. Now all is well, she visits everyday when he is home and he misses her. He has gotten over the fact he has a trach and a feed tube and she is there when he is putting liquid into his body. She is a person who would help and stand beside you and give of herself, she has proved this time and again. She is really family oriented more than anyone else or anyone we know. I think I will have to let it go..and get on with it..and be thankful if he makes it. We seem to really need him now. Thanks again. Carol..