Lisa, if you have the energy, go see this chaplain on Friday and tell him what your reaction was to the initial meeting and his questions to you. It could be that he was asking you to test your resolve to fight this battle, [or he could be a louse]. I will share with you that the best therapist I ever had [in my experience of 2] was the guy who asked me very uncomfortable questions and expected honest answers and challanged my BS. I didn't like him for months, but I stuck with him because I could recognize a ring of truth seeking in his questions. I ended up a much stronger and more confident person and he and I remained friends long after the therapy sessions ended. It is very important that you trust your counselor. But if you are just looking for a "pat on the head", you probably need to go to friends and family. Please don't take my remarks as being harsh- you and Bill have alot to deal with, each and together. Do what is best for you. Amy in the Oz.