lltj,

I know this is a really tough period for the both of you but also keep in mind that it is a very short period in the grand scheme of things. I was only really kind of "out of it" for about 6 weeks and then the slow recovery started but now 6 months out of Tx and our life is back to normal and has been for a few months.

I still have a few remaining physical side effects and certaintly we will never forget what we went through but we don't dwell on it.

I agree with the others that you need to do the things for yourself that makes you feel good. You need to take of you or you won't be able to take care of him. The main thing I still miss is my exercise routine. I used to ride my bike 100+ miles a week and I also subbed as an aerobics instruction whenever I was asked. I can't do that yet because of the dry mouth issues and tax season but I used to love the high from exercise so I know what you miss. If I were you I wouldn't stop exercising and I think he would encourage it if he knew you missed it.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.