Barb - you re right - Cancer makes you look at life differently. It makes you see the real inner beauty in a person and helps you to really appreciate life. Jim - sounds like you have someone so special who is willing to go all the way in fighting this cancer beast! But she can't fight it alone - it will take the two of you to beat it. When you talk about the "torture" of putting her thru this - it may just be torture for her to stand by and not be able to do anything. I know that when I was caring for my son thru his worst days of recovery, just being able to do something for him whether it was taking him to appts, making phone calls, fixing soup, holding him when he got sick or depressed - this is what kept me going, kept me sane. Just the thought of his giving up the fight would have been torture for me. I know we are all different in our reactions and your feelings and decisions are your own. I just hope you do decide to put up a good fight. Life is worth it.

And Wayne - you truly are a beautiful man! No wonder your pretty wife kisses you every chance she gets!