I want to thank everyone here for the advice... i did get him to go to the hospital yesterday (July 1) he was in such pain and it was to the point that he couldnt even swallow his own spit..he is swollen really bad, the drs say he has an absess of some kind in his mouth and is full of infection in his tonuge and face and neck and nodes... its not good.. was causing him alot of pain in his ear and tonuge and face and neck.. i guess infection will do that..they have him on fluids because he was dehydrated and antibiotics and pain meds.. as much as i would like to be at the hospital i cant be there all the time.. its 2 hours away.. and i have a 14 year old at home and i have to work also.. but i will make it back to the hospital as soon as i can..i talked to him today he sounded a little better but not much.. still having trouble talking...as for myself i am on welbutrin and i do have a script for xanax to take as needed.. i have taken them here lately.. it makes me sleepy but it does seem to calm me down somewhat....well i must go for now but like i said THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL THE ADVICE.. i really needed someone to talk to..