emmylou,,hope all is well with you and your cancer... and hope all goes well with your husband...my loved one is home from the hospital and while he was there they did an mri and the cancer is worse then they thought.. the surgery they wanted to do is gonna be more intense and involve alot more.. i think he has decided to not have the surgery done.. i understand his point in not wanting it done and i will support him in what ever it is he wants... i just wish it was alot easier...but they say cancer is the beast and i believe it...it sure makes a person look at life a little differently...i guess we just have to live it to the fullest while we can..they say that every one has there time on earth and when God is ready for you he takes you home...