 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Kerry,
Posting here and getting those feelings out in the open have probably already helped. Let your H read your post. You 2 have been through so much but you need to communicate now more than ever. Find a quite time with no distractions and openly talk about everything that concerns you. Most guys keep a lot inside even when we shouldn't. My wife sometimes has to sit on me to get me to let her know my feelings. I find I am more open with her now after what we have been through so maybe he needs just a little prodding.
You really didn't mention but why can't you all go back to the old place with your old friends and get a new job even if the pay is not up to par at first? Your issues seem more important than his new job.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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