Kerry,
What Amy said, in spades. Speaking from the same place your husband is, it is incredibly depressing at times to even contemplate the "new normal" I dont like it one bit either, but I have two choices, just as he does; learn to accept and live the new normal, or not.

You'll note the word "learn". It is a learning process, and as with most learning, the most effective way is with a teacher. Seek competent councilling, right away. Your CCC almost certainly has dedicated staff in that specialty.

Many patients myself included suffer profound depression following treatment. Depression is a very dangerous condition, if left untreated.

Treatment is really straight-forward, and talking through the really hard issues with a medical professional is, I think, as important as the treatment of the cancer itself.

My wife and I began using the CCCs councillors before I even began treatment, and continue to even now, months after. We'll keep going for a while as well. I'm quite confident that I would not have gotten through this ordeal without them.

Talking is the key; keep coming back here too...we all love to talk!
Wayne