Barb, I would look at this a little differently. Is it possible that she was really traumatized by what happened to her dad? At 16 life is a bit confused anyway and perhaps she just can't face what she thinks is the same thing with you. Even though she is older now she still may be having problems with grief. I can see why you would have a hard time with her behavior. I just wonder if she needs help coping? Perhaps her siblings could help find out what is going on without judging or causing guilt for her. Further, she may benefit from professional counseling.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.