Barb that is something I dont think i will ever be able to understand. I like you did everthing i could and then more for my mom. I was told by her on many occasions A daughter should never have to do the things i did. But i would have it know other way. I was ridiculed by family that my mom was too dependent on me and that she was how she was because of me, that really hurt me but i rose above it and i know in my heart that i did all i could for her. I know it hurt my mom that noone else took the time to try to understand what she was going through. she too was saddened by it, It was not my place to say anything. As for your daughter does she have her own kids? I know with me I have a 5 year old daughter. and it helped me to see it was my place to be there for my mom. And now I know in my heart i will always have that special time i spent with her. Let her know how u feel, all u can do is try.