some docs have little bedside manner. one of my friends was told by his doctor that he was going to die. bluntly said that to him. so of course, my friend continued to drink and smoke. why give it up with that kind of news.

there are better ways to say even hard things. too bad some just don't have the interpersonal skills developed yet.


Spouse of 58 yr old with BOT cancer
Stage 4a HPV16 positive
3 chemo treatments cisplantin
35 radiation treatments 7000 cGy
former smoker/chewed tobacco for 38 yrs.
1/2020 diagnosed with cancer near TMJ
4/2020 chemo 5 days every 2 weeks
6/2020 proton therapy
9/21/2020 cancer free