Orr thankyou so much I feel so much more positive after reading this :)) I am praying my dad can do this and I want to support him every step of the way x Tammy your husband sounds like he's doing great :)) x I've been to see my dad tonight he's very swollen around the jaw not as many secretions today x he says he thinks he's depressed but I don't think he is yet he's just fed up and bored and he wants to get home xx we have done all his house up as it was the same as when we was kids ha he's going to love it I've got him broadband and netflicks I just want him to be happy and occupied and get better xx I no it's a long road I just don't want him to give up to see my dad last week talking to this breaks my heart inside I would loose every single limb to take his place but I can't so all I can do is be strong x thankyou everyone for welcoming me x and thankyou critstine for moving my tab I've been trying for days to contact someone to speak to x