Nikki,
Welcome to the board. I am an oldie here, as you can tell by my member number. I don't post very often, but keep up with eveyone by reading. My husband's situation was very similar to your husbands, and we are 4 years post treatment and he is doing great. We go back to M D Anderson next week for our four year check up. He also was T1N2bMo, was 37 when diagnosed and had really never been sick. Found it first in his neck, then right tonsil. He had the original surgery that found it, then 7 weeks of radiation. He started out around 165 at 5'10", got down to about 118, and finally relented to having the feeding tube (he really did not want it!) After it was in we realized we should have gotten it much sooner. It was so easy to deal with and once his body was getting some nutrition, his healing began to increase.
Like the others, I say the best way to get through it is to take it day by day and try to remember that it is a temporary situation you are going through for hopefully a lifetime of cure.
My husband was on Zoloft for depression throughout treatment and for about 6 months post treatment.
I hope you will rely on your new friends you have made here. I remember how much it helped to come home at the end of the day and be able to relate to people that were going through what we were. To be able to find the answers to some of the many questions and the support of others, is just such a tremendous blessing. I don't know if Brian realizes the enormous effect he has had on so many people by starting the OCF.