Hi Nicki, welcome to this big family especially the tonsil group.Like your husband, most of us have never had anything so traumatic before the cancer diagnosis in our life.Attitude is everything and so both of you have to adopt a very positive one in fighting this battle. As regards treatment, I too had chemo and radiation at the same time, not one after the other. So you may ask the doctor about the effects of different treatments on shrinking the tumor. I am very lucky that after the treatment I didn't need any surgery since the tumors on my left tonsil and the neck (size of a goose egg) have completely disappeared. As for the eating issue,I am of the minority group here without a feeding tube and lost about 16 lbs. I gained back all my lost weight in 6 months post treatment and was back to my full time teaching job in 7 months. Now I have my new normal life which is even more energetic and healthier. Your road ahead will be full of hurdles and with a strong will, I am sure you can pass over them and be the winner. We are all here to give you full support.
Karen.