Hi Nicki
Sorry you are both on this journey, but glad that you have found us, you have some work to do here girl... as much as you can go back over some of the old posts, use the search, I hope you can find some answers, I cannot help with your qusestions, BUT I'm sure someone can, you look after your self, being a carer is hard in it's own way..
Sunshine... love and hugs
Helen