Great info Karen brought up! Definitely go with Paul the first time! It will help you both remember later what was said by the doctors or what exactly went on that you can discuss later. You can take notes, get names of people involved with his care or help your husband remember some of the good points or important things to remember. My son (Paul) did not have chemo but I went to all his Radiation Tx and appointments with the doctors. Being busy and involved with your husband's care will help you to have less time for your own anxious moments and more time for the closeness and good moments you can have with each other.