Wendy,
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with the fears, the unknowns, the "new normal", and all that goes with cancer. I don't dare claim to know how you feel b/c I haven't had oral cancer but I've watched my mom go through it several times over the last 5 years and I know how scary it can be. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers. Please stay on this website - people here give such great advice from their own experiences and I'm sure it will help you. Take one day at a time - you will be fine.

Nancy T