Lisa - As the patient, whose husband was the caregiver, I know he hurt with me and he had his bad times too. I can say that it wasn't disouraging for me to see him having a hard time too. I knew he was human too and it hurt him to see me hurt. So, my advice is to be strong, but let him know you appreciate his struggle and it is okay to cry with him. Misery loves company sometimes. I know I did. But then you pick it up and trudge forward. I will be forever grateful for his wonderful care of me.