Does it ever end ? I'm sick to my stomach and Jim is despondent. I haven't seen this problem on the board so I am anxious to hear from anybody who is familiar with this. When Jim had his surgery in March, all of his teeth were extracted. He now has no teeth. Anyway a few months ago, he said that his bottom gums on the right side of his mouth looked a little different. There were a few white spots and it looked like new teeth were trying to come through. That's the only way I can describe it. The dr. looked at it and said that it was normal for it to look that way. Now, Jim noticed that in that same area, the skin on the gums looks inflamed and a little puffy and weird looking. I wonder what this is ? We are going to our ENT dr in Pgh who did the orginal surgery. We are both afraid of what we are going to hear. He won't talk and it's so frustrating. He's so so depressed. As i've said before, his petscan came back and it looks like mets to the lungs and the doctor so rudely blurted out that he has less than a year to live. Every since that diagnosis, he stopped living. He won't exercise, he won't talk to me and the list goes on. We did go for a 2nd opinion and this dr. said he never tells anybody how long they have to live. He did say though, that he does not recommend a biopsy and for us to wait for our 2nd petscan and he would recommentd taxall. The brutal doctor mentioned Erbitux or methotrexate to prolong his life by a couple of months and Jim said "no". I don't know whether to stick with 2nd opinion doctor or MISS BRUTAL the first doctor. I'm sorry for yakking but I'm a wreck. Can someone shed some light on some of the things I've mentioned...Thanks. Claudia PS: Don't know what I'd do without all of you....