Wendy,

My Bill is an engineer and that is how he faced his diagnosis....divided the problem into smaller parts and made decisions on how to solve each issue. He never broke down and he never acted afraid. He was always willing to talk about options and risks, but never how he was truly feeling. I would, during the early days, just choose my time and talk to him about how I felt...he was receptive to the discussion but it always turned to how to solve the problem..i.e. this is where we are and these are our options and this is what I want to do. Guess it is programmed into the firmware of a male... so I say...open the discussions an let it go where it does...you can't force his emotional side at all. JMHO...Deb