Wendy- My husband is the same way. He only talks about it when I tell him that I need to. He acts as if nothing is happening and sometimes I feel guilty because after all HE is the one fighting for his life. Only once did he say that it is more difficult for me because I will be left with 3 teenagers. I try to take my cues from him and not push. Hang in there. There are many on this board who can help.

Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.