Thanks everyone for the support and advice. I should be truthful and let him know his "vacation status" was okay for awhile as he was recovering but it's not the best thing for us now. Maybe instead of trying to be understanding of his needs, he would feel better if I let him know I need him now. Otherwise, he might have the impression that I think the cancer will be back and that is why I am letting him do what he wants. Does this make sense? The more I think of it that way, that just might be it. Convincing him may be a different story. I appreciate y'alls input - it sure helps instead of talking it out in my own head. My thoughts and prayers to everyone.