Dear Michelle, to be very blunt- he could also be smashed by a drunk driver next week, as could you. It is very hard to respond to your question because the response would have to take into account what your relationship was like "before cancer". That being said, the psychological ramifications of having cancer that enter into your marriage are very significant and can be very challanging long term for each or you. Counseling, jointly and individually could really be a great advantage to you both. "Quality of life after cancer" is something you both have to come to terms with and having a long term and loving marriage is a goal you BOTH must work out together.I must admit, that as a 2 yr. caregiver, I am a little prejudiced toward that side- I know the emotional and physical energy that role demands. I also have a pretty good understanding of the "patient's" suffering. There is nothing easy about this- but if your marriage was good before cancer- it can be as good or even better after cancer. It will no doubt take some recovery time and some work to get there. And here is a solumn thought- not every marriage survives it. Hoping the best for you and Jesse. Amy in the Ozarks