Alright then. I think I am starting to get it. Don't know if my husband will recognize the fact that I am arguing with him to make him feel better LOL... however, I see the point. I need to get us back to normal, even if "normal" isn't violins and roses. Maybe I'll start by asking him if he hadn't gotten cancer, would he be living in one place and me living in another right now. Is that a fair question? I think I have been looking at it as things ARE different now and he should have a "quality of life" where he is away from the stresses of what our daily routine is when we are together. I believe the more I think about it, may I am trying to avoid the additional burden of having to deal with his as well as my own stress.