Thanks you guys. After I posted this, I just felt like I was whining. We do have some things to work through - some that were "pre cancer" - it is more challenging to face those issues now because I think I should focus on his needs and not mine. He's rather unyielding, so I think I will look for a way on my own to come to terms with what we do have that is positive and not dwell on the other. I appreciate your feedback.

Michele, caregiver to husband, Jesse, SCC diagnosed 1/5/06 unknown primary, lf neck mass >6 cm. Chemo (Cisplatin 2x; Carboplatin & Taxol 2x) & XRT radiation 39X ending 4/4/06. Rad neck dissection 8.5 hrs 4/13/06. 30 HBO treatments Fall 2006.