Michelle, Yes it is OK for you to be angry with your husband now. The hardest part of his battle, assuming he doesn't get a recurrence, is done and though he may feel tired and not like dealing with whatever issues were there for the two of you beforehand, he can do it and is more likely to try if you make clear what it is costing your lreationship for you to hold things in.

My marriage had a couple of issues before I got cancer, issues I didn't even know about because my husband tends to hold things in until they get huge, the cancer battle made those issues huger and so we had to go through some pretty intense couples counseling when I was toitally exhaisted from my cancer battle. But it was worthwhile. I would strongly recommend seeking either individual counseling or couples counseling if your husband will go to help you both get what you need right now.

Nelie