Leze, your experience is definitely not unique because 4 years ago, when I was at the bottom of my life, I did come across inconsiderate people around thinking that I was going to die soon. My husband's respected uncle (brother of my father-in-law) who claimed himself an expert in cancer in mainland China came all the way to see me trying to find faults with every kind of treatment I received in HK. When he knew that the tumor on my left neck measured more than 7 cm and I didn't have any surgery to eliminate it, he simply said that unless God had mercy on me, I could not survive and that would be the last time for our meeting. When I asked him if I should request a surgery, he then said the surgery might activate the cancerous cells and spread to other organs. He implied that in either case, I was going to die soon. Fortunately, my husband did not take his uncle's words seriously but you could imagine how I felt at that time. He forced me to take his herbal medicine every day, which I didn't think had any help on my body. I had to take it because my father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law... all said that he was my saviour if I wanted to live. Thank God he just stayed in HK for a week and it was enough to do damage to me mentally. So when I gradually recovered, he felt disappointed and even more so when I travelled to mainland to visit him a year later.
Leze, we can't control what others say in our ears, nor can we kick them away especially if they are our friends and relatives. If I were you, I would just select the more positive words and ignore the negative ones.The most important is that you have strong faith that your husband can recover after being properly treated by doctors and that you go through the ordeal with your husband together.Take care.

Karen