Terry

People have different ways of handling this types of situations. Its not easy. I myself avoided a couple of my friends that were dealing with cancer because I didn't know what to say or do.

Boy do I understand now!!!

Many of our friends were there for us when this all started and as things have gotten complicated they somehow have disappeared. Even his mother has kind of faded out and that bothers me like you have no idea.

I don't think your mOm is upset with you or that you have done something wrong. Maybe that is the best way she can deal with the situation at this time.


Scott and I have taken every decision together since the day we got married and no matter what others say and think, you somehow just know whats best for each other and what works for you both.

Scott and I have discussed many things lately, some that I'm not crazy about but that had to be dealt with at some point. He has talked to me about what he would like me to do in the event that something happens to him. He feels that I should remarry and move on with my life since I'm young. He also recommends that I leave CA and go live my dream life in NC.

I agree that when you get married you become one. That is something that I constantly have to remind him of because he apologizes often for putting me throught this. "IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE"

that is what I committed to when we got married 12 yrs ago and I'm sticking to it.

I admire you Terry, please stay in touch
LILY