I wrote Gary and asked him to write to you as he has been through it all, and has been an AA counselor. While he hasn't been able to get on the board for computer reasons, he told be to tell you that YOU need to get into an Alanon group. Your mental well being is at stake here too, it isn't just about your husband. I urge you to listen to Gary's recomendation.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.