Dear Cindy,

Everyone has given you so much valuable advice, I don't know if my two cents worth will help, but here goes anyway...when my husband Ron went through the radiation, he pulled back and distanced himself too, which at first hurt me a lot. But because of the help I got on this forumn, I was able to put myself in his shoes, and understand what he was going through mentally and emotionally. He needed all of his energy to fight this disease, that was his #1 focus, and everything else took the back burner. He knew I was there for him, even if I couldn't do anything, but just being there, helped. And I turned to my friends, and they helped me when I needed to vent.

I want you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. My husband finished treatment 4 months ago, and things are getting better every day. We are closer than ever, and because of this "cancer thing", we truly cherish every moment that we have together. We take more time to smell the roses because there is no guarantee that any of us will be here tomorrow anyway.
Hang in there Cindy, I believe you can make it through this. As Gary said, just stay in the now and take it one day at a time.

Take care,

Shelley