Wow Minnie.

I agree 100%. I am going through something similar to Cindy in that I feel bad when I am not with my mother on hospice. I go every day and then I feel guilty that I should stay there longer. But, I have work and other things to do. I rarely take time for myself, but it is so important to do that..My own mother wrote me a note (because she cant speak.) before going on hospice to be strong otherwise I was of no use to her. That really helped me and made me stronger. Also, someone told me that it was important that my mother thought she was not a burden. I try hard so that she doesnt feel that way. Also, when my mother first got sick, she pulled away from people and the family. Someone told me that when people have cancer, they are sensitive that people dont want to be around them. I believe it is important to not treat him differently..to try to keep some normalcy, CIndy. Believe me, I know it is hard. Trust me. I left my mother today in her hospital bed in the house so sick and I want to cry every day that I am there..But I try to stay strong. and Cindy, you need rest and some fun in order to do that. Please try to take some time for you but dont let this disease ruin everything you care about. I am thinking of you Cindy...and praying for all of you
Stephany