Michelle, I was thinking of something else in your post about Marcy not having control of her bowels. I am wondering out loud if they have given her too much stool softener to counteract the pain med induced constipation? Hard enough for her to deal with everything else, mighty hard to have dignity with a diaper on...Perhaps they can adjust those anti-constipation drugs?

Take care

Mark

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.