I'm sorry if anyone misundersttod my post. I was trying to tell the OP to get all the facts from his father as there maybe things he isn't being told. We are talking about a man here.( no offense men) In my experience, its a lot more macho to tell someone its too much money than to tell them its hopeless. Not that that has to be the case but he needs to talk to his dad and find out before trying to pressure him.
My comment about radiation and chemo for terminal cases was also based on my experience. Rich was told there was no hope witout extensive surgury. Then when it was found his heart wouldn't tolerate that he was told he should have radiation and chemo because he would die a very horrible death if he did nothing. When I asked what the radiation and chemo would do to ease it I was told it would just slow the progress of the cancer. I still can't understand that reasoning. Not only would he still have the cancer but the effects of radiation and chemo. How does that make it easier? I never got a reply to that question.