Petey, Petey, Petey,

I'm a wife. I thought about how I would feel if I asked my sick husband if there was something special he wanted to do today and he replied...."die". My first thought was that I'd want to punch him, which of course I wouldn't do. My realistic reaction would be to tell him what a selfish ass he's being and that his dying would have such a horrible effect on his wife and kids..........why would he even SAY it to us?

You will get sympathy on this board, understanding, knowledge, advice, love, cyberhugs.........you name it. The one thing you WILL NOT get is pity. Snap out of it and fight the good fight. That would be one huge step to making amends with your wife and children. Show them how much you WANT to be with them.

You can do this Petey, but not by sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Been there/done that/waste of time.

Much love,
Minnie

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.