Heather, the first time my husband had cancer he was just 32 years old. Non-smoker, non-HPV. He had 1/4 his tongue removed and 65 lymph nodes, 1 positive. We had a 7 year old and a 10 year old at the time and I just want you to know ....I get ya. Your range of emotions, fear, anger and worry are mirror images of my own. You are in for a ride as a family. I have been around these boards for 7 years now and can honestly tell you that the intentions on here are never to offend, everyone on here are fighting for your husbands life right along with you.
Our only intentions are to be here for you and your husband, this is a place for you to reach out and ask questions. We all have tips and tricks that help make the battle a little easier.
Please know that everyone's concern about your medical care only comes from a pure heart, in that they want only the best outcome for you and your family.
My husband has had this stupid disease 3 times in the last 6 years and so if your needing A shoulder I'm here.