I'm so sorry to hear this Kerri.
We have had an oropharyngeal recurrence but our circumstances are completely different to you.
You did not have radiation the first round so I'm guessing that this will be your treatment modality this time round, together with chemo.
You should ask about the options with chemo. What drug, what frequency, what side effects.
If you are wanting more children you may want to ask about options such as egg freezing prior to chemo. Just a thought.

One day at a time Kerri,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!