Hi Josh,
I love your positive attitude. We handled it by taking each step one at a time too. It is doable. They seem pretty certain, so I would start eating whatever you want and as much of it as you want so you can gain some weight before tx. You will lose weight. Kevin lost 56 lbs, but he had it to lose so did ok. Now we struggle to keep his weight where it is though. Just another side effect of radiation/chemo I guess.
How old are you?
Please tell your wife that she can pm me if she would like to talk caregiver to caregiver. It will be very hard for her. Probably harder than it is on you because while you are going through it, she is trying to rock the house and babe and watch and help you too. It is gut wrenching to see your loved one hurt.
Please keep in touch with us. We'll be here for you.
Blessings,
Kathy