Josh
Hang in there. You are doing everything right at this point.
After my biopsy confirmed the BOT tumor, I found that Percocet worked a lot better than plain oxy or hydro codone to dull the ear pain. One of the bright sides of radiation TX was it shrank the tumor quickly enough to relieve the pressure on the facial nerves that was causing my ear pain.
Personally, I found that reminding myself of my self image as "tougher than you want to find out" and an indefatigable opponent served me well, although the tumor tried to beat me in both of those categories (after all, it was a rogue part of me). And I was turning 60 so a young guy like you can and will do better.
Charm