Mom has been in the hsptl 8 days now...the infection's gone from her belly--that cleared up quickly...she had no food by mouth & has been on IV's...a port was put in on Wed because her veins were wearing out. She mostly just sleeps now...she is able with effort to be helped to the bathroom and back to bed. She's very short of breath because she can't breathe thru her nose...her cheek--the sinus area stays a "hot pink" color on the skin. She has no pain in her mouth or face....so I think maybe this is one gift that God has given to her. A Dr told her to set a "goal"..he was very kind and compasionate...and I think she has set her goal to "get this over with"....She's in a "swing bed" at the hospital..this allows her to stay longer...the tube feedings started back up yesterday--only 1/2 a can & 2 feedings...they've stayed in her...so each day a little more will be added. The Erbitux was the probable cause for the diarhea. Things do have seem to have physically calmed down for her...of course the HPV continues to have it's way with her. She doesn't want the GJ tube...so praying the tube/balloon she has will work better this go round. So glad for the help and info & support here...I still feel very inadequate tho in helping her thru this but I am doing my best.