I text him and said i would call in for a few minutes tonight and he replied "very contentand would like to stay that way so would prefer if you didnot call".He is not well and I can do nothing and trying to talk to him and explain would send him into a rage he does not have the ability now to think stright ,there is no logic.I just have to let it be and when he is well then I can sort this all out.I just thought there would be others whoes partner became awful and they would be able to say it can and dose happen and this is the course it will take.He is not well now so I can not at this time tell him he is being crual ,unreasonable ,unstable,manic etc as he does not have the mental ability to grasp and understand this .His reality and ours are wourlds apart ,unfortunitly I am so cought up in it emotionaly ,that it takes me time to become calm and understand what is happening , and the fear, hurt ,worry ,sadness etc all dont help me seeing things rationaly.I am fine now and will not worry.I will speak to the team and let them know what is happening and our GP and hope things settle.
seana

thank you for your help and advise