I totally agree... The scar on my arm is a battle scar! Its not a battle I've won yet - but I wear it with pride as it shows I not go down without a fight! your wife needs to be reminded that anybody whose opinion would matter - already knows about her fight - and those that don't - their opinions are unimportant! She will eventually come to realize this - and yes as sandy said there s reconstruction as a possibility - hugs to you fr being a great hubby -- and her for being strong enough to fight!