Can you make an appointment with the social worker at the nursing home to go over options? He or she should be familiar with medicaid and can hopefully walk you through the process. That's what they are there for. I really hope they are able to get you the information you need to help your FIL. I'm so sorry that you have this stress to deal with on top of everything else that is going on.

Tracy - 33 at diagnosis
SCC right ventral tongue Dx 4/11.
T1N2M0
1st resection 5/11.
Bilateral neck dissection: 2 pos nodes
2nd resection w/graft 6/11.
Erbitux x 11 completed 9/11. IMRT x 30 completed 8/11.
3 month MRI and PET/CT all clear.
6, 9, 12 and 24 month post treatment MRIs all clear.