 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,552 | Fire him!
You are only enabling his behaviour and you are making it YOUR problem, not his. You are standing in the way of his hitting the bottom which is what enabling/rescuing is all about.
HE has to WANT to quit. There is NO other path to sobriety. It also requires RIGOROUS honesty.
Be honest with him, tell him what you suspect and recommend he go to AA or/or seek treatment. It probably won't work, as it sounds like he has some more drunks in him, but you will at least plant the seeds. Whether they grow, or not, is not up to you.
If you need the guy that much then make it conditional, after proof of treatment, that he must submit to breathalyzer tests at your discretion (you can buy them for around $30).
There are plenty of sober craftsman out there is this job market. Also, there are many people, in the trades, in AA or still active alcoholics.
Sorry to sound so blunt but I have do a little experience with this, being a friend of Bill W. for over 16 years now...
Last edited by Gary; 03-20-2011 03:53 AM.
Gary Allsebrook
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Dx 11/22/02, SCC, 6 x 3 cm Polypoid tumor, rt tonsil, Stage III/IVA, T3N0M0 G1/2
Tx 1/28/03 - 3/19/03, Cisplatin ct x2, IMRT, bilateral, with boost, x35(69.96Gy)
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