David,

My late husband was a recovering alcoholic He passed away 11 years ago from Stage 4 Throat Cancer. I sat here thinking should I or shouldn't I write this, but I can see you're a good guy and you want to help him.

You're enabling him, I enabled my husband too. What I did to get his attention, one morning after his all night toot I called an attorney right in front of him. He heard, I want a divorce and take everything I can get. My thinking at that time I'm going to threaten him and make the call with him hearing everything. I told him I have an appointment at 1 today, your gone and the kids will never have to see this again. An hour later he said, don't do anything until I get back. He came back 2 hours later with an AA Sponsor. He said, give me 30 days to prove myself if I go back to drinking you and the kids can have everything. From that day until the day he passed 15 years later he was in the AA program.

What I'm trying to get at he needs a Sponsor and seeing you care for him a threat might be the way to go...No Cell phone, No Rent, No Utilities.

Seeing you've done everything possible give it a try see what happens. I know what you mean you don't want to give up on him, I didn't want to give up on my husband either so I thought doing everything in front of him might give him a real scare. It worked for me not sure if it will for you.

Anything is possible. Been there done that.

Best of luck,
Connie